Do You Know Your Love Language?
For anyone who has been married or is married - you KNOW all to well what is required to make it WORK! In my experience, marriage delivers one of the most challenging, exhilarating and life-changing relationships with all of its intimate complexities.
I just celebrated my 28th wedding anniversary.
We have survived ups and downs, highs and lows, deaths and births, health issues, career changes and more.
Through it all, we have remained united and committed to working on OURSELVES - taking responsibility for our own growth AND a commitment to our partnership to make it strong, loving, passionate and respectful.
For anyone who has been married or is married - you KNOW all too well what is required to make it WORK! In my experience, marriage delivers one of the most challenging, exhilarating and life changing relationships with all of its intimate complexities.
It’s remarkable to even conceive that two people from two totally different upbringings and two different sets of life experiences can make a marriage last. Yet, it IS the most magical thing when you can treat this relationship and bond as the gift that it is. The ability to heal together, to grow together and to push each other to become the best version of yourself by showing up fully and completely, is truly amazing.
One of the best things we learned years ago, was love languages.
“The 5 Love Languages The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman is a MUST-read! Essentially, you each need to know what your love language is and identify the love language of your partner. Then you need to deliver the love language that your spouse requires to him/her and vice versa. That means you don’t speak YOUR love language or judge your partner on your love language but rather THEIRS.
My husband and I both share the love languages of “quality time” and “physical touch” but my husband additionally appreciates “acts of service” whereas I love “words of affirmation.” Without knowing this critical information we tend to deliver on what WE WANT which leads to miscommunication and feeling unseen. It’s far less complicated than we make it and so many of our challenges disappeared when we became aware of this nugget of gold. Check out a short video my husband and I made on how this knowledge transformed our marriage.
The 5 Love Languages:
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch
I highly recommend both you and your partner take the quiz and discuss the results and what was highest for each of you, then adjust yourselves accordingly.
I love learning and growing daily, and my marriage gets equal attention to that commitment to growth, which has led to a deeply passionate and enriching connection that just keeps getting better and better with time.
As Psychotherapist, Ester Perel, says, “The quality of our relationships is the quality of our lives.” This is a critical relationship that ripples out and impacts our children and our children’s children for generations… it is worth working on collectively!
Grateful to be on this journey with you! I BELIEVE IN YOU!
I would love to hear your experience and understanding of love languages and how it has impacted your relationship.
Thank you for being here.
Never forget one person can make a difference…. that one person is YOU.
With so much love,
Your friend,
Kim xo